Marriage CounselingCouples commonly enlist the assistance of a counselor when their relationship isn’t functioning well and is entrenched in maladaptive patterns. There are many possible reasons for this, including arrogance, jealousy, anger, poor communication or problem-solving, ill health, and third parties. Couples Counseling works with the couple-system and allows the couple to have a more objective view of their relationship, modify dysfunctional behavior, decrease emotional avoidance, improve communication, and promote their strengths.

Additionally, as intimacy deepens, each partner learns to take equal responsibility of future problems as they arise, becomes aware of their own contribution to the couple-system, and makes some fundamental changes in their beliefs, behaviors, and feelings. Couples truly benefit when these gains are maintained over the long-term.

How Marriage Counseling Can Help Strengthen Your Relationship

Emotion focused counseling can benefit couples in healthy relationships as well as those in crisis, but most couples wait an average of six years from the first sign of problems to get help. Find out if marriage counseling is right for your relationship.

Common Myths About Marriage Counseling

“It’s too expensive”
According to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT), marriage counseling costs 20% less than a psychologist’s fees, and 30% less than a psychiatrist’s fees. In fact, it is shown that 2/3 of marriage counselors are willing to lower their rates! (Under certain criteria, marriage counseling may be covered under most health insurance policies.)

“It’s just the last step before the inevitable divorce” or “We’re past the point of reconciliation.”
According to one study, just 3% of couples divorced 4 years after completing insight-oriented marital therapy, and nearly one-third of marriages last after an affair has been admitted or discovered!

“It takes too long.”
The median length of family therapy is just 12 sessions, and 65% of cases are completed within 20 sessions. In fact, family therapy generally lasts 30% fewer sessions than individual therapy.

“It doesn’t make a difference”
About one half of all highly-distressed marriages in a 2011 study showed persistent signs of improvement 5 years later.

Benefits And Stats About Marriage Counseling

  • 752,370 couples enter family therapy each year
  • 3.4% of households have seen a marriage and family therapist
  • Family therapy has been shown to reduce health care use by 21.5%

Patient Feedback:

  • 98.1% rated services good or excellent
  • 97.1% got the kind of help they desired
  • 91.2% were satisfied with the amount of help they received
  • 93% said they helped in dealing more effectively with problems
  • 96.9% would recommend their therapist to a friend
  • 94.3% would return to the same therapist
  • 97.4% were generally satisfied with the service they received

An Approach To Marriage Counseling That Works

Fusing Gottman’s Research-Based Counseling and Emotion-Focused Couples Counseling

Following the best practices of the two most successful, results driven methods in couples therapy to improve patient outcomes:

Science-based, goal oriented therapy is used to help couples to:

  • increase respect, affection and closeness
  • break through conflict and resolve conflict
  • generate greater understanding between partners
  • keep conflict discussions calm
  • maintain lasting improvements in the relationship

Do you want to learn more about how couples counseling can help your relationship?

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www.gottman.com/marriage-couples/
guidedoc.com/is-marriage-counseling-covered-by-insurance
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www.marriageguardian.com/marriage-counseling-statistics.html
www.aamft.org/imis15/Content/Consumer_Updates/Marriage_and_Family_Therapists.aspx
www.gottman.com/private-therapy/
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