Are you sabotaging your relationship?
1. You’re checked out
Not investing in your relationship can manifest in many ways. For some, it’s excessive gaming, excessive exercise, consistently being on the phone, or pouring into others.
2. You’re looking for problems
One way that we sabotage relationships (or potential relationships) is by searching for reasons why it isn’t working or won’t work. When we look for these things, we often find them. Even before the reason becomes an issue we’ve already told ourselves stories about why it can’t work.
3. You’re not working on it
Additionally, if you aren’t working on your relationship, your love isn’t being fostered and taken care of. This is often how we “fall out of love.” Being a good partner takes time and effort.
4. You’re talking poorly about your partner
5. You’re retaliating rather than forgiving
6. You’re making assumptions
7. You’re comparing