Figure out who you are, then do it on purpose.
The skill set of emotional toleration (the ability to sit with and “tolerate” a range of emotional states) can sometimes be a wonderful ally in delaying gratification, practicing patience, and aiding with communication.
Caring for yourself requires active participation. Self-care is not simply about reaching the point of exhaustion or depletion and then participating in behaviors which soothe.
In the realm of Cognitive Theory one of the basic tenants is that our thoughts often precipitate feelings. The theory suggests that when these thoughts are more pessimistic in form they can unintentionally create painful emotional experiences.
When you dare to try something new, speak up for yourself, or admit to a mistake, do you ever hear a voice in the back of your head telling you that you can’t do it? That you’ll only embarrass yourself? That it’s not even worth trying because you always fail?
Our spiritual lives and our psychological lives can be intimately intertwined. Often times, as one begins to develop, the other surfaces as well. These two forces have been the cause of ideological shifts and separations in the field of Psychology from as far back as its founders in Freud and Jung to more recent exploration by Psychologists Richard Alpert (Ram Dass) and Timothy Leary. The division has usually occurred between the practice (tradition) and the experience (atypical). You get to decide which side of the pendulum rings most true for you. Both perspectives probably contain invaluable wisdom. So, embrace the nuances and subtleties of our own unique psychological terrain, while continuing to reach for your own awakening and broadening reality.
Often times when we think about self esteem, we tend to think about things that we’re good at. Or things that we can do. And so what we look at is questions of — and there are two concepts that I would throw out there. This is a question of competence. Are you competent at what you’re thinking about doing? But then, there’s also this question of confidence. And when we really think about self esteem, what we really want is greater confidence, as opposed to greater competence. So confidence is your ability to do something. Confidence is your ability to fail at doing something.
As we’re entering into the year of 2014, for a lot of people, it’s pretty common to start thinking about where you’d like to be, and goals, and areas for growth, and resolutions. Oftentimes people will concentrate on diminishing or lessening behaviors that they don’t want to do as much of.
I’m going to talk today about some tips that will ensure healthy and lasting bonds in relationships. I have five components to share with you that, if followed, could lead to health and happiness.
First of all, I think it’s really important to remember that it can take a while to adjust to your new living environment. I’d say it can take anywhere from six months to even a year to really get acclimated to your new city. So I think it’s important to remember to just be easy on yourself and to allow yourself to really experience the transition.