Written by Stephen Jennings, LPC-A
When we think of addiction, we usually picture the person who’s using—the one who’s drinking too much, taking pills, or repeating the same problematic behavior no matter how harsh the consequences have been. What we often miss is the bigger picture: addiction never just affects one person. It weaves itself into the fabric of the entire family.
Whether it’s a parent, a child, a partner, or a sibling struggling—everyone in the family feels the impact in one way or another. And most of the time, this happens quietly, behind closed doors.
I say this not just as someone who works in the field of addiction and mental health, but as someone who has lived through it.
When someone in the family is battling addiction, the rest of the family often starts shifting to cope. These shifts can be subtle, or they can be huge—but they’re almost always unspoken.
You might recognize some of these patterns:
These roles aren’t assigned—they just happen as a way to survive. Over time, they can feel normal, even when they’re rooted in deep pain.
What many people don’t realize is that these patterns don’t always stop when the addiction ends. Even after someone gets sober—or if they don’t—the effects on the family can linger for years, even generations.
Kids who grow up in these dynamics often carry them into adulthood. They may struggle with anxiety, difficulty trusting others, perfectionism, or their own forms of addiction or codependency—without ever connecting the dots back to what they experienced growing up.
This is why healing can’t just focus on the person who’s using. The whole family needs support.
Therapy can be life-changing—not just for the person in recovery, but for every family member who’s been impacted.
Here’s what therapy can offer:
If you're reading this and thinking, This sounds like my family, know this: you’re not alone. And none of this is your fault.
Families dealing with addiction are often carrying silent wounds. Silence doesn’t have to be the end of the story. With support, with compassion, and with the right tools, families can begin to break the cycle—together or individually.
Recovery isn’t just about quitting drugs or alcohol—it’s about healing your whole self. Holistic recovery means addressing the emotional pain, trauma, and disconnection that often fuel addiction, while also rebuilding your body, relationships, and sense of purpose. It’s about getting honest and building self-awareness.
You deserve that. Your family deserves that. Healing is possible—for all of you.